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Movie Magic & Mental Health: Surprising Ways Movies Make Us Feel Good

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I’ve always been fascinated by the magic of movies! You know how life can sometimes feel like a roller-coaster with all its stress and uncertainty? Then you go to a movie or watch one of your favorites on TV and suddenly you’re whisked away to these incredible worlds where anything is possible. Like, remember those breathtaking scenes in Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon (2000), or the old-timey charm of Casablanca (1943)? They’re like a mini-vacation for your mind, giving you a break from the daily grind. It’s pretty cool when you think about it!

But movies aren’t just about escaping reality; they can be like little treasure troves of wisdom. You know how we always talk about learning from experiences? Well, some movies can be like crash courses in life lessons. In my book Blockbuster Love: Lessons from the Movies on How to Create Lasting Love, I explore how the themes and lessons found in film can enrich our relationships and enhance our well-being. Whether it’s picking up relationship tips (do’s and don’ts) from a rom-com or feeling inspired by characters overcoming obstacles, there’s always something to take away. Movies can shift our perspectives and help us find meaning and inspiration in our own lives.

And to add to this—movies are emotional powerhouses! They can make you laugh, cry, and everything in between. When we connect with those characters on screen, it’s like we’re tapping into our feelings, which is pretty therapeutic if you ask me. Having a good cry during a sad movie is like hitting the emotional reset button. Our tears release pain and stress and help regulate our nervous system. That’s why we can feel so much better after a good cry.

When we feel empathetic during a movie, it’s like we’re practicing for real-life situations. We become better at understanding how others might feel or what they might be going through. And that’s gold for relationships. I mean, think about it—when you can really get where others are coming from, it’s unifying— like you’re speaking the same language.

But here’s the real kicker: movies have this amazing ability to shine a light on mental health issues without making it feel heavy or scary. Seeing characters dealing with their own struggles is like a reminder that we’re not alone in this journey, and it’s okay to ask for help when we need it.

Movies don’t just make us feel good; they make us want to do good too. Ever watched a film where the underdog comes out on top, and you’re suddenly feeling all inspired? Yeah, that’s the magic of movies pushing us to be our best selves. And when we watch great movies with friends, we not only feel all warm and fuzzy inside but we build bonds and community, and that sense of connection is priceless.

From providing an escape from day-to-day stress to encouraging empathy, inspiring hope, or having a good cry, movies have the power to uplift and help with healing in surprisingly creative ways. So the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed or in need of a pick-me-up, consider watching your favorite film—it just might be the magic your heart and mind need.

Unmasking Ghosts: How to Banish Resentments and Reclaim Joy

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Today is Halloween and as I look at all the creative costumes on parade, my thoughts reflect on my first costume as a child. I’m probably dating myself, but it was Casper the Friendly Ghost. That was a long time ago, but this time of year our thoughts tend to turn to ghosts and ghouls that haunt the night for trick or treat. However, there’s a different kind of ghost that can linger in our lives that’s not so friendly but can be creative in the stories it weaves. These phantoms go about stealing our joy and casting a shadow over our present—these are the ghosts of past resentments. Much like the eerie specters that haunt old mansions, these resentments can be elusive, persistent, and downright spooky. So let’s explore how to exorcise these ghosts from our lives and embrace the light of joy. Here are some tips:

  1. Identify the Ghosts: Just as ghost hunters use special tools to detect paranormal activity, we can equip ourselves to identify the resentments that lurk in the shadows of our minds. Reflect on past experiences that still evoke negative emotions. Are there unresolved conflicts or lingering grudges? These are the ghosts that need to be confronted.
  2. Shine Light on the Shadows: Ghosts thrive in darkness, and so do resentments. It’s time to shine a light on these hidden emotions. Acknowledge the pain and hurt, and allow yourself to feel those emotions without judgment. Bringing them into the light lessens their power over your psyche.
  3. Confront the Ghosts: Ghosts lose their potency when confronted head-on. Similarly, facing your resentments is crucial for letting go. If possible, communicate your feelings with the person involved or seek closure within yourself. Confrontation doesn’t always mean direct interaction; it can also be a personal acknowledgment and acceptance.
  4. Use Ghost-busting Techniques: Employ ghost-busting techniques to banish these lingering spirits. Practice forgiveness, not for the benefit of others, but for your own peace of mind. Visualize releasing the resentment like releasing a ghost from a haunted house. Engage in mindfulness, meditation, or faith-building practices to create mental space for positivity and peace.
  5. Build a Protective Barrier: Once you’ve cleared your mental space, it’s essential to build a protective barrier against future haunting. Establish healthy boundaries in your relationships and learn to let go of minor grievances. Focus on the present moment rather than dwelling on past grievances.
  6. Create a Joyful Séance: Just as a séance is a gathering to communicate with spirits, create a positive gathering in your life to commune with the living. Surround yourself with supportive friends, engage in activities that bring you joy, and foster a sense of gratitude. Joyful experiences act as a shield against the ghosts of resentment.

Whether you celebrate Halloween or not, don’t let the ghosts of past resentments continue to haunt your present. Embrace the ghost-busting techniques, confront the shadows, and create a protective barrier against future haunting. By releasing these specters, you’ll discover a newfound sense of lightness and joy in your life. As the ghosts fade away, you’ll be free to enjoy the festivities of life without the chains of resentment weighing you down. And if you need a little more help, don’t be afraid to reach out to a licensed therapist for additional support or guidance. Be safe, and may your days be filled with joy!